Uncovering the Code of Honor: The Complex Life of Sgt.
The Judgment of Sgt J Chapter 8 The One who became Carrie
Hi, I am Cathy. I am the other wife to the man you know as Sgt. J. he considers me trust worthy and loyal to him. The rest of our family believes that I am the centerpiece, the strong willed, emotionally balanced one in our loving family. The one who has a soothing effect on them all especially the one you know as Sgt. J.
However when my story is finished you and they will find out this might not be true. While I am not his legal wife, I am devoted and supportive of the one we call John. I gave my heart to Kay many years before meeting this man. Upon meeting and being with John, I ended up giving my heart and soul to both John and Kay. My life with both Kay and John has been a wonderful experience and I would not think of changing anything. Well maybe one little thing however I will get to that in a later chapter.
As Kay has done, I prefer to tell John my story and have him write it up with my approval. I sit here in his study telling him as he types. The man I once knew well seems distance and cold at times. I am at a lost to help him as he will not tell any of us why he must sit in judgment of himself. This man has faced many struggles in his life and I fear this one may be his greatest.
He feels the need to punish himself, taking the blame for an event that he had no hand in what so ever. I agreed to tell my side of the story only in hopes of setting this man free once and for all of the demons that haunt him. Some of those demons we the three girls in his life have placed there to begin with.
Like Kay, I do so in fear of what lies ahead for not only for the man I love but for us as well. Sgt. J is a complex being one born out of the need to survive during the Vietnam War. I know the type of man he is because I come from a military family. I guess my story will begin with that.
My father, his brother, his father and his grandfather all were military. United States Army men sworn to up hold their duty to do what was right. To defend and protect not only our freedom but also others in the world when theirs are threatened. These men like Sgt. J are proud men, men who follow a code in life. I learned of this code growing up an army brat.
A true man has a set code of honor and lives by those laws religiously. His laws become nearly as rigid as the laws of nature. If you wrong a man of honor, you can be sure he will punish you, just as gravity always pulls the apple to the ground when it falls from the tree.
Their code follows some basic laws or rules. To them if you want to get anywhere in life, you will need to have some basic elements in your code of honor. Whether it is true or not those who follow the code will do better in life because they know who they are and are being true to themselves. They will live by their code at all times. Remember, when you live by a strict code of honor, you cannot break it at any time. I once asked Sgt. J once why he could not break his code.
"One must always obey his code or there is no point in having one," Sgt. J replied to me.
Kay asked me sometime ago to explain about this code to her. I sat her down and I explained it the way I knew of how it worked. I tell you the readers of his story as well. There are five basic laws that are part of this code of honor. I give them to you as I once did her.
"Listen well John as I speak these words to you," "Maybe then you will snap out of what ever or why you are punishing yourself," I said to John as he typed.
LAW 1
Never break your code of honor. The first and most important law is that you may never break the code under any circumstance. To do so means you are not the man you think you are or have become.
LAW 2
Respect yourself and others at all times. Their code of honor is of self-respect and respect of others that follow the same code. When you break the code, you disrespect yourself and all the men who live by it. Be peaceful, be courteous, obey the law, and respect everyone at all times. However, if someone puts his hand on you or a loved ones, send him to the cemetery.
Law 3
Respect your fellow warriors. When you meet someone that is your "kind of guy," it is usually because he lives by the same code that you do. With Sgt. J, it happened when he met Jason and Jack and they became the three J's. Three men drawn together by broken hearts yet they understood each other as well as what it means to live by their code of honor.
LAW 4
Respect the mission. Never question your mission just see it through to THE END
Hi, I am Cathy. I am the other wife to the man you know as Sgt. J. he considers me trust worthy and loyal to him. The rest of our family believes that I am the centerpiece, the strong willed, emotionally balanced one in our loving family. The one who has a soothing effect on them all especially the one you know as Sgt. J.
However when my story is finished you and they will find out this might not be true. While I am not his legal wife, I am devoted and supportive of the one we call John. I gave my heart to Kay many years before meeting this man. Upon meeting and being with John, I ended up giving my heart and soul to both John and Kay. My life with both Kay and John has been a wonderful experience and I would not think of changing anything. Well maybe one little thing however I will get to that in a later chapter.
As Kay has done, I prefer to tell John my story and have him write it up with my approval. I sit here in his study telling him as he types. The man I once knew well seems distance and cold at times. I am at a lost to help him as he will not tell any of us why he must sit in judgment of himself. This man has faced many struggles in his life and I fear this one may be his greatest.
He feels the need to punish himself, taking the blame for an event that he had no hand in what so ever. I agreed to tell my side of the story only in hopes of setting this man free once and for all of the demons that haunt him. Some of those demons we the three girls in his life have placed there to begin with.
Like Kay, I do so in fear of what lies ahead for not only for the man I love but for us as well. Sgt. J is a complex being one born out of the need to survive during the Vietnam War. I know the type of man he is because I come from a military family. I guess my story will begin with that.
My father, his brother, his father and his grandfather all were military. United States Army men sworn to up hold their duty to do what was right. To defend and protect not only our freedom but also others in the world when theirs are threatened. These men like Sgt. J are proud men, men who follow a code in life. I learned of this code growing up an army brat.
A true man has a set code of honor and lives by those laws religiously. His laws become nearly as rigid as the laws of nature. If you wrong a man of honor, you can be sure he will punish you, just as gravity always pulls the apple to the ground when it falls from the tree.
Their code follows some basic laws or rules. To them if you want to get anywhere in life, you will need to have some basic elements in your code of honor. Whether it is true or not those who follow the code will do better in life because they know who they are and are being true to themselves. They will live by their code at all times. Remember, when you live by a strict code of honor, you cannot break it at any time. I once asked Sgt. J once why he could not break his code.
"One must always obey his code or there is no point in having one," Sgt. J replied to me.
Kay asked me sometime ago to explain about this code to her. I sat her down and I explained it the way I knew of how it worked. I tell you the readers of his story as well. There are five basic laws that are part of this code of honor. I give them to you as I once did her.
"Listen well John as I speak these words to you," "Maybe then you will snap out of what ever or why you are punishing yourself," I said to John as he typed.
LAW 1
Never break your code of honor. The first and most important law is that you may never break the code under any circumstance. To do so means you are not the man you think you are or have become.
LAW 2
Respect yourself and others at all times. Their code of honor is of self-respect and respect of others that follow the same code. When you break the code, you disrespect yourself and all the men who live by it. Be peaceful, be courteous, obey the law, and respect everyone at all times. However, if someone puts his hand on you or a loved ones, send him to the cemetery.
Law 3
Respect your fellow warriors. When you meet someone that is your "kind of guy," it is usually because he lives by the same code that you do. With Sgt. J, it happened when he met Jason and Jack and they became the three J's. Three men drawn together by broken hearts yet they understood each other as well as what it means to live by their code of honor.
LAW 4
Respect the mission. Never question your mission just see it through to THE END
